So what?

I admire strong and bold women. Women, who know what they want and don't let anything or anybody come in their way. Women, who are not afraid to speak up for themselves and stand on their own two feet. Women that stand out. I've always wanted to be like them and stop being self-conscious about myself and my actions. But what does self-confidence depend on? Is it about education or how you were brought up? Or does it depend on achievements? Let's say I have finally reached my ultimate career goal and work in a position I have always dreamed of working - will I finally be happy with myself and the way I am because I have achieved a personal goal and therefore have a reason to be proud of myself? If yes, isn't it the same with losing weight? You're unhappy with your appearance, ashamed of yourself or just not that confident with who you are as a person. This, on a certain psychological level, hinders you from being entirely yourself. You're maybe aiming to lose weight, look differently, be a 'better' person; in short, be somebody else other than yourself. While we are all, throughout our life, trying to better ourselves, and change as a result of experiences and time that passes, this can't be compared to the obsession of constantly focusing on changing yourself because you're unhappy with your looks or character. I believe this is the reason why plastic surgery has become so popular and widely spread; 
not just for women. By changing or manipulating a certain area of their body, people hope to become that person they have always dreamed to be or look like an image they picture in their head about themselves. Will this change their inner confidence, though? Why is it that our self-assurance relies so much on our appearance? And how can we change that? The first years after birth are believed to be the most formative ones in life. Whatever happens in these years will influence your entire life. So, does your self-confidence today date back to events and care in your earliest years of life? Or are the experiences in the following years and puberty more influential? It is proven that eating disorders do result from early childhood occurrences, which erupt later on in lifein this disorder. Mostly, inner psychological issues are transferred to a dissatisfaction with the look of the body. This is one way an eating disorder can appear, but most certainly it always seeks a way to break out and express that something's not in balance inside this person. The focus of a person with an eating disorder is their outside. A considerable amount of disorders emerge through puberty as many teenagers start comparing themselves to others (their age), and start questioning their own beauty. Today, magazines, media, Internet, celebrities and many other factors convey the image of beauty. They define what is considered to be beautiful and what not. However, this does not reflect beauty in real life (outside the celebrity's world). I'm not blaming the media - well, to certain point, yes - but I'm blaming the issue of comparing people. I have said this before in an earlier post about cloning: I love the fact that everybody is unique. Everybody acts differently, looks differently and feels differently. That's why you should be proud of yourself, and always be yourself because everybody else is already taken.You are the only version of you on this entire planet, why would you want to change that to look or act like somebody else? You are you, and that's fantastic! Sometimes in life we have these 'so-what' moments: if somebody comes up to you and criticizes you, or something you did, just be like: 'so what? This is who I am, I did this 
and I'm not ashamed of it'.These 'so-what' moments will help us to accept ourselves. Stop worrying about pimples, little extra pounds, a messed up test or meeting - so the hell what? Earth still revolves around itself, and your life will go on, too. You have accomplished so much in your life so far, why do you let this little thing be such a big obstacle to overcome or make you feel bad about yourself? No matter what anybody says, never stop believing in yourself or your dreams!

Julia